A needed destraction,

[Zed]

OK where do i start,ill try and make this short but feel i can share this here, i split from my now very ex wife under 8 years ago, ive had nothing but aggro with her over our daughter (coral) who is 10 now,to top it off after 6 months of splitting i ended up in hospital with health problems coursed through stress,ok she was seeing someone behind my back, i found out and it all went pear shaped, ive been with my angie now for just over 7 years, she is amazing , my ex has been with at least 6 other men not including one offs, she has 3 other children the recent one is 4 now and from the one before the one now    coral is so messed up she calls them all dad as her younger brother does and she is so left out she does as well, any way we had problems last week as she told the school she wants to live with me, her mum wont have it as have asked a few times before, so now ive filled in a form getting social involved as corals life is bad with her mum , this is coursing me no end of stress and as a generally layed back guy is coursing me with no sleep etc,

ok why is this on the LM section, well i needed a distraction from all of this and after my warranty problem with my old wave as they could not fix it just replace , ive now decided that the reasons for keeping this LM isnt the right reasons as the sentimental reasons are too odd, plus i really want a wave i can use as miss using mine, i have to add this has taken me a while to get to this decision but i know for me its the right one , lifes to short and i have bigger worries, i am really looking forward to getting my new wave and a new start with other things in the end,

thanks for reading, i did try and make it shorter 

paul   

[andre0407]

Aw. I can only wish things would work out nicely for you, Paul... good luck..

[Zed]

Aw. I can only wish things would work out nicely for you, Paul... good luck..

fingers crossed mate, it will all go to court so i hope its not long winded, plus i have to keep my cool with my ex and her smurfty partner,

ok one thing if there is any interest im selling the pouch and box plus papers, 

[Gareth]

Heck Paul that sounds like a sucky situation alright.   Best of luck with it mate.

[Zed]

Heck Paul that sounds like a sucky situation alright.   Best of luck with it mate.

thanks gareth, yeah its not great, i feel major rucks a head, sadly the form i filled out yesterday is a start but she has to look at it first and send it back i hope she does this quick, once she has sent the form back i can start sorting out coral living here , i dont think i added that coral has dispraxia so she needs routine etc in her life as is important for her, she doesnt get this with her mum, i suffer also with dispraxia so i know how important it is in life, thanks for all the suppoert guys , i need it,

paul

[nuphoria]

You are embarking upon a fight which will test you, drain your resources and your resolve. You obviously care about your daughters' well being a great deal, so try and hold that close to you when you feel like throwing the towel in. It won't be easy and you will have to face people you would rather spit on than negotiate with, but it's important that you keep the higher ground every step of the way. These things are inevitably ugly so don't expect it to be anything but.

Be strong mate, this too will pass. We're all here as a sounding board and a shiny distraction service

[Zed]

You are embarking upon a fight which will test you, drain your resources and your resolve. You obviously care about your daughters' well being a great deal, so try and hold that close to you when you feel like throwing the towel in. It won't be easy and you will have to face people you would rather spit on than negotiate with, but it's important that you keep the higher ground every step of the way. These things are inevitably ugly so don't expect it to be anything but.

Be strong mate, this too will pass. We're all here as a sounding board and a shiny distraction service

thanks chris, yes this will be ugly as unless she just hands coral over there is no other option, hopefully as i only work part time as iam the kids main carer i might get funding help with court costs ? i have someone on it who works in a solicitors (she is corals 24 year old sister from my ex) she will do anything to get coral with me,

paul

[nuphoria]

I'm not sire what legal aid covers in these cases, the citizens advice bureau may be able to shed more light on it if your other source doesn't know. Doesn't hurt to get two opinions anyway 

[Chako]

Paul that sucks. But that is a battle worth fighting.

Can you do me a favour however?

Give me your address. I do not want you to ditch your father's MT. I know you will regret it sooner or later considering all the fun you have had with it lately.

If you keep it I am willing to send you a brand spanking new Super Tool 300. I have an extra collecting dust. Just PM me your address and I will ship it off in the next few days or so.  

Call me a sentimental fool, but I know I couldn't part with the few MTs from my father, and I know yours holds a special place for you as well.

[Zed]

Paul that sucks. But that is a battle worth fighting.

Can you do me a favour however?

Give me your address. I do not want you to ditch your father's MT. I know you will regret it sooner or later considering all the fun you have had with it lately.

If you keep it I am willing to send you a brand spanking new Super Tool 300. I have an extra collecting dust. Just PM me your address and I will ship it off in the next few days or so.  

Call me a sentimental fool, but I know I couldn't part with the few MTs from my father, and I know yours holds a special place for you as well.

thanks mate, this is such a kind offer but i sent it out yesterday and feel right about it, a new start and all of that, although again this is what makes this site so great , thanks chako there is some top people on here and just chatting on here is helping as today i feel so tired i just wont to switch off but am here with both my younger daughters 2-3 so just have to keep going, 

paul

[nuphoria]

Yes you do Paul, enjoy them


Chako, you're a good bloke 

[Zed]

Yes you do Paul, enjoy them


Chako, you're a good bloke 

its them that keeps me sane chris and angie, my drive now is sorting coral out,

[Chako]

Doh!  

Oh well, give me your address anyways. Consider the Super Tool 300 as yours.

[Chako]

May I add that one of my most endearing traits...I am stubborn as all get out. Once I get a notion in my head, i can't be budged.

You may as well cough up the address mate. That Super Tool 300 is yours.   

[Dunc]

Paul so sorry to hear the problems your having with your daughter  I really hope it gets sorted quickly so she is happy .
  I can understand getting new multitools to take your mind off things , I'm very much like that myself and they feature very much in my comfort zone .

btw if you need a new Leather sheath for your new Wave just PM me and I'll sort it out for you  As for the box and old sheath why not put it up for trade and see if anyone has something to swap ?

Doh!  

Oh well, give me your address anyways. Consider the Super Tool 300 as yours.

I'll PM you Pauls address , btw he's changed his name to Duncan and now lives in Norfolk 
  Seriously though  WOW thats very kind of you Chako    can I have one too lol  Pauls going to be proper made up and I can't wait for the photos    Well done Sir 

Dunc

[Zed]

chako ive sent you my address and cant believe it  thanks mate for your kindness .

dunc cheers mate and i felt it was the right time to get a new model, i have put the box etc in the trade section as would like a driver bit kit for the new wave,

again thanks everyone, the saying a problem shared is a problem halved is spot on, 

im off to the docs fri for sleeping tablets as really need a good sleep, plus got night shifts fri and sat so at least work might distract me a bit,

paul

[Dunc]

Don't forget I have a shiny new Wave sheath here with you name on it mate which you can have 

Dunc

[Zed]

Don't forget I have a shiny new Wave sheath here with you name on it mate which you can have 

Dunc

thanks dunc , this site still amazes me, one day ill meet you guys at a meet and owe you all a pint, 

[Raukodur]

Good luck mate, seems like you are an upstanding guy, who cares for his family. So you wouldnt be able to live with yourself if you didnt put up a fight to get your daughter. May be tough, but a man's got to do what a man's got to do 

[Zed]

Good luck mate, seems like you are an upstanding guy, who cares for his family. So you wouldnt be able to live with yourself if you didnt put up a fight to get your daughter. May be tough, but a man's got to do what a man's got to do  

yep and we have been through alot over the years, i just want her to have a normal life and look back and say how fun her childhood was, not look back and say it was bad and i was unhappy, also as ive had problems with my dad that ive carried for 30 years before i put them to rest i dont want her going through the same, im sure this all wont be a quick fix but ill sort it as quick as i can,

again thanks everyone for all the support ,    this isnt the first time ive been helped out on this site , i just hope one day i can do stuff back,

paul

[Zed]

Ive spent most of this afternoon on the net looking for advice, if it comes down to this ill win hands down as i changed my whole life for my kids including giving up a higher paid career to be with them ,

what i read,

A parent's fitness is determined by his overall ability to care for the children. Factors in determining fitness typically include income, job stability, hours away from children, and overall history as a caregiver.

and not to be negative but how right is this,

The man forfeits his parental rights when he has sex with a woman, not his wife. He must hire an attorney to petition the courts to reestablish his rights. She has sole custody and control. It's a glass ceiling thing, only the men are relegated to the subbasement with no stairs to climb. 

[cerbera147]

That's really sh!tty Paul    I can't imagine how horrible that would be.

Keep a stiff upper lip and don't let the barstewards grind you down  

Chako, you are a very kind and generous man   That's the second act of kindness I've seen from you

I'm a believer in karma; what goes around comes around  

Doesn't that screw up your 40th pressie then lol  It'll have to be a TTi then

Dan

[Zed]

That's really sh!tty Paul    I can't imagine how horrible that would be.

Keep a stiff upper lip and don't let the barstewards grind you down  

Chako, you are a very kind and generous man   That's the second act of kindness I've seen from you

I'm a believer in karma; what goes around comes around  

Doesn't that screw up your 40th pressie then lol  It'll have to be a TTi then

Dan

thanks mate and ill try my best to not let it get to me, lol i dont think i need another LM now, 

[cerbera147]

thanks mate and ill try my best to not let it get to me, lol i dont think i need another LM now, 

Blasphemy;

[Zed]

thanks mate and ill try my best to not let it get to me, lol i dont think i need another LM now, 

Blasphemy;
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[Zed]

ok due to the great kindness on this site im going to hold onto the box and pouch as at some point there might be someone who really needs one and ill give it to them 

[DaveK]

Ive spent most of this afternoon on the net looking for advice, if it comes down to this ill win hands down as i changed my whole life for my kids including giving up a higher paid career to be with them ,

what i read,

A parent's fitness is determined by his overall ability to care for the children. Factors in determining fitness typically include income, job stability, hours away from children, and overall history as a caregiver.

and not to be negative but how right is this,

The man forfeits his parental rights when he has sex with a woman, not his wife. He must hire an attorney to petition the courts to reestablish his rights. She has sole custody and control. It's a glass ceiling thing, only the men are relegated to the subbasement with no stairs to climb. 

Listen to your Auntie Nuphoria and contact the Citizen's Advice Bureau. They will explain exactly what you are / aren't able to challenge and won't charge you a bean. You literally have nothing to lose by calling, mailing or dropping in and seeing them 

Paternal rights have / are changing lately - go find out from an expert 

[Zed]

Ive spent most of this afternoon on the net looking for advice, if it comes down to this ill win hands down as i changed my whole life for my kids including giving up a higher paid career to be with them ,

what i read,

A parent's fitness is determined by his overall ability to care for the children. Factors in determining fitness typically include income, job stability, hours away from children, and overall history as a caregiver.

and not to be negative but how right is this,

The man forfeits his parental rights when he has sex with a woman, not his wife. He must hire an attorney to petition the courts to reestablish his rights. She has sole custody and control. It's a glass ceiling thing, only the men are relegated to the subbasement with no stairs to climb. 

Listen to your Auntie Nuphoria and contact the Citizen's Advice Bureau. They will explain exactly what you are / aren't able to challenge and won't charge you a bean. You literally have nothing to lose by calling, mailing or dropping in and seeing them 

Paternal rights have / are changing lately - go find out from an expert 

yeah there on my list dave  im going to get a meeting set up for next wed as the only time me and angie can get down there, i need her there as most things fly over my head 

[Mike, Lord of the Spammers!]

Trust me Paul we've got far more right's than ever before these days. And I second the call to go down the CAB as they will point you in the right direction

Solicitors aren't often aware of all aspect's of the law, whereas a CAB appointed one will

[Mike, Lord of the Spammers!]

Paul that sucks. But that is a battle worth fighting.

Can you do me a favour however?

Give me your address. I do not want you to ditch your father's MT. I know you will regret it sooner or later considering all the fun you have had with it lately.

If you keep it I am willing to send you a brand spanking new Super Tool 300. I have an extra collecting dust. Just PM me your address and I will ship it off in the next few days or so.  

Call me a sentimental fool, but I know I couldn't part with the few MTs from my father, and I know yours holds a special place for you as well.

Damn good of you mate